So we’re continuing our Win the Battle Series after yesterday’s launch. Our first topic I wrote about was pornography. You would be hard pressed to walk on a college campus today and not find a person who has not looked at porn at least once. It disrupts normal sexuality, and while many people want to put their focuses on the lives of each other, namely in area’s such as the LGBT debate, people who are looking at porn in a nutshell equally as wrong. Most people just haven’t felt the shame from this because behind the door many of the people who are condemning those individuals may too have an issue of their own. It’s a form of idolatry, lust, and it’s selfish. It’s one of the most effective ways the devil controls our lives. It makes us giant hypocrites. Porn skews our view of reality, and what was once an industry limited to mail order magazines has exploded to an everywhere concept. Whether its a casual peek or a full on addiction, there is nothing righteous about viewing porn.
For those of you who do not struggle with this matter do not start, but sympathize with those who do. It’s something that controls one’s life, but let’s be honest, we all have our vices. We cannot play the high and mighty card because we are all sinners. We as Christians need to put aside what we see, rather than judge, help them and pray.
Below are a couple of steps one can begin to take to stop their addiction or usage.
- Admit It!
- This is the first step in overcoming this problem, first tell yourself “This is wrong, and I can’t do this anymore.” You have now cracked the door by doing this, but take it a step further, and admit it to God, He already knows, but confess your sins, and humble yourself in prayer. Ask God for strength when you do. It’s not going to happen overnight, but it’s a process. If you’re not quite to terms with our Lord, yet, find a friend, family member, or maybe a counselor whom you know and trust and take this step. I believe in you, but you must also, believe in yourself.
- Make a Plan
- If you think you can stop “cold turkey” you are probably not going to beat this. Develop a plan of action to take on this matter, it’s going to be a process. Brainstorm how much support you will need, when you want to make the changes, what changes you need to make. Look for support, whether that’s here, a support group, or from your Bible. Remember, God is with us always and we can do all things through him. Philippians 4:13 says, “I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me.” I suggest writing in a journal or an accountability log. Think of ways to distract yourself, start a new hobby, volunteer, find ways to make your family stronger. Remember, you are not alone, there are millions who share your struggle.
- Get Support
- I know this point may seem a touch redundant, but find someone who will support you. Not only will they help you keep track of your goals, but also hold you accountable. Knowing someone is there helps. There are actually supporting groups for those of you who don’t necessarily want to admit this to those closest to you quite yet. Addictions are embarrassing, but it would be best to eventually keep your loved ones in the loop. A support group would be ideal, though because they share your struggle, and they will find ways to heal the wounds. However, you’re not only getting help they are too.
- Think Positive!
- No one likes a negative Nancy, and getting down on yourself won’t help. Remember, you can do this! Think of positive goals, the thing about the finish line. Think about why you’re doing this, find something to do this for. Never get down on yourself because you are bettering yourself. Don’t let any naysayer bring you down either. You will face temptation, but you can get through it.
I hope these suggestions will help. They are all relatively common practices across the board, but they work. Let us pray:
Father God, we all have our vices. We all need your help.
Lord be with us through our healing as we overcome our addiction, vices, and sins.
Show us the light, and give us the strength to overcome.
Let us not pass judgement on those who struggle with this, but find ways to support them along the way.
Allow those with the struggles in their lives to overcome and make themselves better in Your Mighty Name!
Allow these tips to reach the people who need them.
Put people in the lives of those who need them to push them to healing.
Allow their wounds to be healed and give them the focus to stick to their goals.
Lord we pray to you in Jesus Name, Amen!